{"id":814,"date":"2024-04-22T11:39:28","date_gmt":"2024-04-22T11:39:28","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/2024\/04\/22\/why-everyone-is-crying-to-taylors-breakup-songs\/"},"modified":"2024-04-22T11:39:28","modified_gmt":"2024-04-22T11:39:28","slug":"why-everyone-is-crying-to-taylors-breakup-songs","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/2024\/04\/22\/why-everyone-is-crying-to-taylors-breakup-songs\/","title":{"rendered":"Why everyone is crying to Taylor\u2019s breakup songs"},"content":{"rendered":"
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Fans were waiting on bated breath for the emotional torment they were sure would come from \u201cThe Tortured Poets Department,\u201d Taylor Swift\u2019s 11th studio album. <\/p>\n

And she delivered with a double album. <\/p>\n

The first release since the end of Swift\u2019s six-year relationship was announced, \u201cThe Tortured Poets Department\u201d captured the anger, sadness, longing, and confusion fans love in a good breakup song. <\/p>\n

She sang about having held her breath since her love left her, her heart breaking when he pretended to put a ring on her wedding finger, and him being the loss of her life \u2013 the kind of pain listeners may turn away from in life but sometimes seek out in their music. <\/p>\n

Experts say it is normal and often helpful to connect with heartbreaking music, and Swift even shared her own philosophy in an Instagram post about the album. <\/p>\n

\u201cThis writer is of the firm belief that our tears become holy in the form of ink on a page,\u201d she said. \u201cOnce we have spoken our saddest story, we can be free of it.\u201d <\/p>\n

Something bad, but why does it feel so good?<\/h3>\n

If you\u2019ve seen a performance of \u201cAll Too Well,\u201d you know that Swifties take great joy in scream singing the most heartbreaking parts. <\/p>\n

Why does it feel so good? Catharsis and validation, said Arianna Galligher, director of the Gabbe Well-Being Office and of the Stress, Trauma and Resilience (STAR) Program at The Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center. <\/p>\n

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It is beneficial to have an avenue to explore the more painful emotions and to feel like it is OK because other people have and are experiencing them too, she said. <\/p>\n

Even if you aren\u2019t in the midst of a breakup yourself, tapping back into those emotions from past experiences can help, said Dr. Jaryd Hiser, psychologist at The Ohio State University Wexner Medical Center. <\/p>\n

\u201cWe all fall into this trap of avoidance of these emotions,\u201d he said. \u201cTo be able to go back to those, think of it as a processing of that time.\u201d <\/p>\n

That process may lead to more acceptance of those experiences and that it is OK if you never fully feel OK about them, he added. <\/p>\n

Music bringing peace<\/h3>\n

The music may be key in making people, who otherwise wouldn\u2019t feel safe visiting those difficult experiences and emotions, revisit them, Hiser said. <\/p>\n

\u201cI think of it as being a really easy way into mindfulness,\u201d he said. \u201cIf we were able to be mindful all the time, that would be great, but most of us can\u2019t \u2026 tap into that.\u201d <\/p>\n

He likes to work with patients on mindfulness by pairing it with activities they enjoy \u2013 because it is a lot easier to stay in the present when you are doing something you like, he said. <\/p>\n

\u201cThose types of things that can kind of draw us in and let us be with our emotions in that moment,\u201d Hiser added. <\/p>\n

Heartbreak is Swift\u2019s national anthem<\/h3>\n

Swift\u2019s success when it comes to her breakup songs may come from the nuance that she holds in her writing, Galligher said. <\/p>\n

While there may be grief and loss in her writing, there also tends to be themes of empowerment in her work, she added. <\/p>\n

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In a song of her new album, \u201cFresh Out the Slammer,\u201d Swift writes about going from \u201cdaily disappearing for one glimpse of his smile\u201d to saying that she has learned, she is free, and she is going to take the lessons forward with her. <\/p>\n

And she doesn\u2019t always follow the trope of the jilted ex with a vindictive break up song either, Galligher said. <\/p>\n

\u201cA lot of her songs actually bring some balance to the conversation,\u201d she said. \u201cAnd yes, (some songs) sort of highlight \u2018this is why I\u2019m setting a boundary,\u2019 but there are often also lyrics that speak to \u2018here\u2019s how I\u2019ve grown and changed and what I\u2019ve learned about myself, and maybe what I would do differently.\u2019 <\/p>\n

\u201cI think that sort of balanced exploration is a healthy model,\u201d Galligher said. <\/p>\n

Swift even contextualized the album in her Instagram post by saying that the expression of feelings in the songs does not mean that there is still a villain and a hero. <\/p>\n

\u201cThere is nothing to avenge, no scores to settle once wounds have healed. And upon further reflection, a good number of them turned out to be self-inflicted,\u201d she wrote. <\/p>\n

How much is too much?<\/h3>\n

As comforting, empowering and connecting as breakup songs may be, there can be too much of a good thing, Galligher said. <\/p>\n

\u201cIf we steep in it for too long, it starts to impact our ability to function, and that\u2019s certainly a reason to pause and maybe visit with some other types of music,\u201d she said. <\/p>\n

Especially if you are struggling to begin with, make sure to check in with loved ones and yourself about how you are coping, Hiser said. \u00a0If you notice suicidal ideation, contact your therapist or 988, he added. <\/p>\n

\u201cBut really, I think for most people, music is a conduit to accessing our own emotions and sometimes processing through them,\u201d Galligher said.\u00a0\u201cAllowing space for those emotions to be present is really important, and music can really help us tap into that.\u201d <\/p>\n<\/p>\n

This post appeared first on cnn.com<\/div>\n<\/div>\n\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Fans were waiting on bated breath for the emotional torment they were sure would come from \u201cThe Tortured Poets Department,\u201d Taylor Swift\u2019s 11th studio album. And she delivered with a double album. The first release since the end of Swift\u2019s six-year relationship was announced, \u201cThe Tortured Poets Department\u201d captured the anger, sadness, longing, and confusion …<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":815,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"loftocean_post_primary_category":0,"loftocean_post_format_gallery":"","loftocean_post_format_gallery_ids":"","loftocean_post_format_gallery_urls":"","loftocean_post_format_video_id":0,"loftocean_post_format_video_url":"","loftocean_post_format_video_type":"","loftocean_post_format_video":"","loftocean_post_format_audio_type":"","loftocean_post_format_audio_url":"","loftocean_post_format_audio_id":0,"loftocean_post_format_audio":"","loftocean-featured-post":"","loftocean-like-count":0,"loftocean-view-count":995,"tinysalt_single_post_intro_label":"","tinysalt_single_post_intro_description":"","tinysalt_hide_post_featured_image":"","tinysalt_post_featured_media_position":"","tinysalt_single_site_header_source":"","tinysalt_single_custom_site_header":"0","tinysalt_single_custom_sticky_site_header":"0","tinysalt_single_custom_sticky_site_header_style":"sticky-scroll-up","tinysalt_single_site_footer_source":"","tinysalt_single_custom_site_footer":"0","footnotes":""},"categories":[35],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-814","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-health-news"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/814","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=814"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/814\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/815"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=814"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=814"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/retirednurseblog.com\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=814"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}